Answering The Call

We sit with three women we admire to talk about worth, voice, and why we stop apologizing. The talk moves from nursing and operations to belief, self-love, and boundaries that change how we lead and live.

• why we said yes to the mission
• reframing “non-clinical” roles as essential care
• women shrinking and the cost of self-erasure
• self-worth practices that actually stick
• faith, self-belief, and a shared path to dignity
• choosing resilience and daily habits over slogans
• redefining “too much” as needed connection
• boundaries: no as a full sentence, energy budgets
• rejecting bare minimum in love and friendship

“Stay tuned. If you thought part one of the season finale was great, season two is gonna knock your socks off.”

Transcript

SPEAKER_03 0:12

Hi friends, Jennifer Eddings here, The Heart Behind the Call I Collective. And today I am back for a special two-part season finale for season one. And I could not be more excited. I have been blown away by the amount of experience, love, empathy, and wisdom that's been shared between all of us. And on the most impactful note, I knew already what the audience was going to want. By the time this airs, you guys are already going to be very clearly telling me you want more of the same women that have already graced my stage. So that is exactly what I've done. I have brought back three of the most powerful and beautiful women that I could possibly know. Women that said yes before they even knew what this was going to be. And so I'm going to turn it over to them. This is my group today. We're doing a uh round table-ish uh episode. Go ahead and introduce yourself. I want to introduce you for you because I messed it up the last time. So go ahead.

SPEAKER_01 1:08

My name is Crystal Smean. I'm an LPN. What else was it?

SPEAKER_03 1:13

No, that's perfect. I was kind of hoping for your intro from the last one.

SPEAKER_01 1:17

Oh no, because yeah, this is what I do piss people off.

SPEAKER_03 1:20

Okay. You guys will know about that tomorrow. Crystal's episode actually is tomorrow. But we'll go ahead and move down the line. So just go ahead and tell me your name and what you do.

SPEAKER_02 1:27

Hi, my name is Rose Reese, and I'm a nurse leader.

SPEAKER_00 1:31

And I'm Marissa Castillo, and I'm an hospital administration.

Why We Said Yes To The Mission

SPEAKER_03 1:36

I love that. Thank you guys all so, so very much for coming back. And something that they don't know is a couple weeks ago, as I was thinking about the finale, and I was like, this actually might be a great idea. I messaged you each individually to get your opinions because if you're gonna tell me it was stupid, I want it to be private. And each of you were like, nope, perfect idea. And I kind of already thought about that. And I just am so excited to be sitting amongst women that actually share the same mindset and understand the mission is to what we're doing right now. Um, so my very first question to get this started, and we're gonna start a little slow, it's gonna get deeper as we go. Um, I want to know really for myself, why did you say yes to me? And actually, some of you didn't say yes to me, you called me first and said, please add me to whatever it is you're doing. I don't know what you're doing or what you're up to, but I'm pretty sure I want to be a part of it. So we'll start here. And Crystal, tell me when I did call you and ask, because you outside of this, we are best friends, and so you support everything and try not to tell me what to do or whatever. But when I called you and asked to be part of this, why did you say yes when you had no idea?

SPEAKER_01 2:46

I was gonna say that I was held against my will force. You were not, you were not. No, uh, when you first started or whatever, I thought it was a great idea to get the word out there for nurses to be able to have a voice and talk about things that a lot of people don't like to talk about out loud or not amongst themselves, just in this quiet circle. But that's pretty much where I did it. And to get the stories out there, stories that people need to hear.

SPEAKER_03 3:13

I think, well, first of all, you are hospital administration. If you feel comfortable redoing it, that's perfectly fine. We will redo it. If you say support services, I'm gonna be irritated. But I love you, but I think that you're downplaying what you do. And honestly, I think that's exactly part of why we're doing this. I think there in we can go into healthcare individually and say there is such a if you're not a nurse in a hospital, sometimes you have feelings about maybe not being as important, whether it's self-imposed or whether it's because of your own experience with other people. I heard you earlier introducing, I think maybe Crystal had asked what you guys do. And your first comment to her was, I'm not clinical. And my heart sank a little bit in that bathroom because sure, sure. Are you clinical? No, that's fine. But you are incredibly important. You are relational. You are the one that gets a lot of things done that those clinical people would not be able to pull their heads out of their asses to do. And I'm just being very honest.

unknown 4:20

Okay.

SPEAKER_03 4:21

So keep it. Should you want to redo it, by all means.

SPEAKER_00 4:24

We're good.

SPEAKER_03 4:25

You good?

SPEAKER_00 4:26

Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 4:26

Okay, we're good. All right, we're good. Do we need we naturally downplay that too? We do, we do. And I'm so bad about downtaring ourselves, like, well, not this exactly. No, you are that, like, that is true.

SPEAKER_03 4:39

And we can even speak to that too. There is a uh I'll I'll come back to that just to finish the just so my ADHD brain can move along. Um, we will go with if our next beautiful guest in the middle wearing a black blazer. I love your fashion sounds. Um, if you could introduce yourself again for the people watching.

SPEAKER_02 4:57

Um, my name is Rose, and I am a nurse leader. I've been a nurse for 20 years, and I wanted to be a part of bringing, you know, what I always say is bringing uh some light to the darkness. I think that to Crystal's point, we do often mitigate the work that we do as women. And we need to do a better job of eliminating that darkness together.

SPEAKER_03 5:25

I love that. And I love that you remembered the actual question instead of the question that I asked you to answer, which was introduce yourself, which had already done that. But I definitely got thrown off, and my autism ADHD is definitely on the rise today. So I appreciate that.

SPEAKER_02 5:37

So the question was why did you say yes?

SPEAKER_03 5:40

And you also, um, you and Marissa, in in the the the space that we work in, um, we have connected individually, but whatever, um, very similar stories about what we know needs to shift with where we're at. And it's not just where we work, it's everywhere within healthcare, to be honest with you. Um, so that was your answer to why did you say yes? And I appreciate that so very much.

SPEAKER_02 6:05

I don't think it's limited to healthcare.

SPEAKER_03 6:07

I agree with you.

SPEAKER_02 6:09

It is everywhere women have a tendency to make themselves small. And it's something that shouldn't be allowed anymore.

SPEAKER_03 6:18

I agree with you.

SPEAKER_02 6:19

Too much.

SPEAKER_03 6:20

Too much. How many times have you been told that? That's my truth.

SPEAKER_02 6:23

That's my truth bomb for laying down too much.

SPEAKER_03 6:25

The too much thing. Oh, yes. It's like, don't steal that. We could we probably could all say the same things for the truth bomb. So we will go down one more seat. And actually, I want to come back to both of those things. Um, but Marissa, tell us why did you say, why did you message me and say, girl, I don't know what your crazy ass is doing, but count me in.

SPEAKER_00 6:44

Well, every conversation I've ever had with you from the first time we ever met has been completely inspiring. I have never left a single conversation with you where I wasn't uplifted and like feeling like, yes, like she gets it. Like, yes, we're the same. Like we are just, we get it. We're there. We're we're the exact same thought process of we're not too much. We've never been too much. And if they think that we're too much, then they can go find less.

Titles, Worth, And Being “Non-Clinical”

SPEAKER_03 7:16

They can go find less. That's exactly right. And so, just for a little bit of backstory, um, and correct me if I'm wrong, but I am positive, Rose and Marissa, you have met before and worked together. I'm sure you've worked together, but have you met before in person? Okay. Okay, I figured you out. I just wanted to make sure. Um, but you guys have not ever Just once or twice, maybe once. Are you being sarcastic? I'm pretty sure. Okay. Smart asses. Okay, great. Um, but I you have not had the privilege yet of meeting Crystal. Um, but to let all of you guys know um that we are all sitting along alongside like minds and thoughts and beliefs. And um so the three of you sitting here today is is is very um, I want to say the word serendipitous in case unless my vocabulary is failing me, but it just feels like it was supposed to be just this way. Um, and our outfits don't tell me anything otherwise. And we were pink and black all day, and I love it. Um, I want to go back for, well, thank you for saying yes. I had no idea if anyone was gonna say yes or want to be a part of it. And I was fully prepared to sit here by myself every week and just talk and pray that someone wanted to listen. Because I do strongly believe that healing begins when we start to share things for ourselves and for others to hear the things. And I want to go back to something you said a second ago, but also when you mentioned that it's not just healthcare. The truth is that the call light collective, the whole name is based off of bedside nursing. The last thing you do when you leave a patient's room, here's your call light. If you need anything, please let me know. So hit the call light, I'll show up. And that's really what this community is supposed to be about. And that is what we're doing is building a community of women that know where the safe space is to land. Um, but as I've done these episodes and spoken, and more so based on the reaction feedback from the two episodes that have dropped, the majority of the people that have reached out have not been healthcare workers. And it was such a beautiful reminder that it's it's humanity that really needs a call light. It's not just nurses, it's not just healthcare workers, it's not just women, it is not just caretakers, it is all of us because this world is hard and it beats us up on the daily. And if you lose sight of that, it is very easily and quickly, um, it can easily and quickly spiral into something very deep and dark. And I think all of us have been in that deep dark space that I just mentioned, which I think is what fuels us to want to make sure we pull out the light. Um so just to that. And you certainly anyone that wants to add into that, you certainly can, or I'll just talk a lot. No? Okay. All right.

SPEAKER_01 10:04

Well, moving to a couple of, yeah, for everyone.

SPEAKER_03 10:07

It is everyone. But then I want to go back a little bit to what you said about um that we do we do minimize our roles, we minimize the impact we have, we um dismiss the importance of what we're doing. But if you you hype me up, but if you were here or doing whatever, you would say all the things that weren't important about what you were doing. So why is that? What do you guys think? Why do we do that?

SPEAKER_00 10:38

It's hard for us to uh I don't know. It's it's I think it goes back to that whole shrinking, and it's the expectation, it's society because if you talk about what you do, I do this or I've done that, you know, you're boasting. Sounds like you're you've got an ego. Oh, she's got an ego. Oh, she thinks, you know, she's all that. So we shrink and we minimize. And I think the difference needs to be that, oh, you know, she's proud of what she does, and it's not boasting, and it's not, you know, I'm conceited. It's hey, I worked really hard to get where I'm at, and I'm really proud of this. Yes. And why can't we celebrate each other like that? Um, you know, we're really good at at praising other people. Yes. We've come a long way. I mean, we have to think about that. We have come a long way for us to build other women's for women to build other divisions. We have really a long way, but it's cost of minimizing ourselves and stopping. I mean, I think it comes back to that whole um, you know, fix her crown, you know, when nobody's looking, you fix her crown. What about our own? For sure. Is it okay? Is it okay to fix our own crown? I think it is.

SPEAKER_03 11:55

I I think it's okay to fix our own crown, but I I also think it's okay to wear our crown. And I I don't know why, because you're right, I will hype any other woman or person up all day long. I will tell them how proud of them I am. I have only in the past maybe two months been able to utter the words that I am proud of myself, and that is in 43 years.

SPEAKER_01 12:16

Yeah, that's awful for every woman out there because number one, you should always love yourself first, and then everybody else comes after. So I do call a lot of the women in my life queens, but I always remember that above them all, there's me. Because before them, there was me, and after them, they'll be me. So you should always boost your crown first before you adjust somebody else's dress like you should always uh put it on your own oxygen. That's right, that's right.

SPEAKER_02 12:48

I watched something on the Oprah not a million years ago. So my age, I fall right into the latchkey kids Oprah. So I've watched Oprah every day. And one of the things they talked about Oprah?

SPEAKER_03 13:01

I did Jerry Springer. We it's okay, we just came from different households. It's fine, it's fine. But go ahead, go ahead, it's fine.

SPEAKER_02 13:05

But very much heard something that I'd always heard, but never resonated with what is in the cup is mine, and what spills out of the cup is for everyone else. And how do you have space to spill out if you're not full? And what we do as women is we give things that we don't have to give, and then we end up being resentful that we're gonna be able to do that.

SPEAKER_03 13:32

So you're saying stop doing this and allow it to be so full that the liquid runs over.

SPEAKER_02 13:39

What spills out of my cup is for others, or what is in my cup is for me, and I did not come up with that. But it really was something that was very um eye-opening when I really got that concept that if I'm not my best self, how am I leading others? How am I truly spilling into others if I'm not even showing up for myself? People don't do what you say, people do what you do.

SPEAKER_03 14:07

That's unfortunate that's unfortunate for them.

SPEAKER_02 14:09

And so in order for me to be an authentic leader, I have to lead myself and care for myself and love myself and be an example of that for others so that they know what it looks like to straighten straighten out.

SPEAKER_01 14:28

Just look in the mirror every morning and tell yourself you love yourself. My name is Crystal Smead, and I love myself, and only good things happen to me.

SPEAKER_03 14:38

So I I agree with that, but you've you've you've told me to do that. That is uncomfortable.

Women Shrinking And Owning Value

SPEAKER_01 14:44

It is when you're if you were not here, I just started just glancing away, like I would just dart my eyes, and now of course I confidently say it in the mirror at least 10 times. My name is Crystal Sneed, only good things happen to me.

SPEAKER_03 14:57

I love you, I love you, I love you because you know I've gotten through to my name is Jennifer Eddings, and then I just exit the bathroom.

SPEAKER_01 15:03

And I'm gonna get there. That's how you know it's myself that you don't you aren't there, and when you get there, then it's it just comes naturally, and you're like, oh yeah, this is where I should have been all this time. Took me 40 years to really you know, do it. So it's not like it was an overnight sensation. I just automatically started loving myself. It was telling myself that I deserve to be loved by myself first, and then others naturally just gravitate towards that.

SPEAKER_02 15:35

What I love though is I heard it was a choice. You chose.

SPEAKER_01 15:39

Oh, yeah. Well, there's a choice. Every day you can make the choice to be upset, every day you can make the choice to be happy, miserable. I mean, life is hard, yes. We all know life is hard, it's not gonna get any easier, it's just gonna get worse, blah, blah, blah. So make the choice every day to make it positive experience for yourself.

SPEAKER_02 15:55

Right, because you get to choose. Choice. It's yeah, it's a choice.

SPEAKER_03 15:59

It is. I will say it is a lot easier said than done sometimes. I recently heard this, uh, I saw this thing or I forgot. I heard a saw, and it said, you know, all those assholes that say choose happiness, as if I walk up to a menu and happiness is on there, and I'm like, nah, none of that for me. I'll take I'll take uh I'll take uh some morbid obesity, some depression, give me a little anxiety, wrap that up, I'll take that as I go. Because it can be more difficult.

SPEAKER_01 16:28

You're gonna force yourself to be happy sometimes.

SPEAKER_03 16:30

You do, you do, and I so I I think the choice is true. And the more you say it, the more you do believe it, and then you can work off of that. Fake it till you make it.

SPEAKER_02 16:42

Yeah, I mean, for sure, but then I think there also is as women, we prove we can do hard stuff every day. Every day, single day. So, how come you confidently know that you do hard stuff?

SPEAKER_03 16:54

How do I confidently know I do hard stuff?

SPEAKER_02 16:56

Yeah, you know, like you know you do hard things every day, yes, so that you're capable, correct. So then how can you also know that you're capable of doing hard things and you can't tell yourself you believe in yourself?

SPEAKER_03 17:12

Well, I don't like I don't like you calling me out like that.

SPEAKER_02 17:15

So, you know what really worked for me, like what really was that moment for me that was a huge life-changing was when I had to decide whether or not I thought the Lord was lying. Like, I'm either unworthy because I say I'm unworthy, right? Or I believe that I'm made in the image of God because that is what is said in the Bible. That's true, and it can't be I'm unworthy and I am made in the image of Him.

SPEAKER_03 17:50

So you can't, okay, that's fair. There's this concept. So if you're if your belief isn't that, then you have to tell yourself that if that's truly what you believe, right? Then you have to believe that you are in fact worthy.

SPEAKER_02 18:01

And so that was really the hump that like that was what got me over the hump of being stuck in the space of unworthiness. Is was I willing to say that that was a lie? And no.

SPEAKER_03 18:17

But what do you so I here I challenge, and I don't interrupt you, I'm so sorry. I told you already my ADHD is crazy today. Um, here's here's my challenge for you. Because we are in a space where we welcome all, right? Yeah, absolutely. We are we want to help everyone. So while you and I, um for sure, and I'm pretty sure I I don't I dare not assume anything about anyone, what do you how do we help the ones that maybe don't have a strong faith for their own personal reason? How do we say, how do we get them to understand that? Or how you know what I mean? Like, how do we and it may be difficult past that for sure?

SPEAKER_02 18:58

I mean, I as much as I want to say I'm spiritual, I don't say I'm religious.

SPEAKER_03 19:04

I would agree with that with you.

SPEAKER_02 19:06

And so I think that even when you don't believe a certain religion, most people believe in something. Something something, something, something like that like even when you don't call it the I believe in myself and myself only that I make my life how I want it to be, and only me, and it's you doing your own choices, making your own life, it's you, right?

SPEAKER_03 19:33

So and that and that is powerful, and that is it, it is um, it is not only you, so make your life the best because you only got one for sure, for sure, for for you, and I get that, and you know, and we both knew I already knew where you stood on this when we came into this.

SPEAKER_02 19:48

It is perfectly but no, it's not it's still a belief, it's still a thing, it's still a belief.

SPEAKER_03 19:54

It's a news is my point. It is news, so that's a great. I love that you just said that. She's absolutely right. Still a belief, your belief is in you. So if you trust you as much as you do and you love yourself, then how could you also say that you're not worthy of good things because you are such a powerful person, right? Right. It's the same thing. I wasn't sure how that was gonna go. I picked her a couple times under her skirt, but that's the thing when you when that's okay.

SPEAKER_02 20:26

And that's okay. And here's the thing like we can totally still share the couch, yeah. And you can still be just as powerful, and I can still respect you just as much, exactly, and us be completely different in that. I love it, and me be just as willing to straighten your crown as you are to straighten mine. Absolutely.

SPEAKER_03 20:46

Because at the end of the day, that's really you guys would give each other, all three of you, you would give each other your own crowns just to make sure the other person didn't go without, even though you would be left without. And I I need that to be known because the the people that the women and I I keep divulging for not divulging, uh diverting from that because my son is on one of the episodes. So I don't want to keep saying the women, the women, the women. Um, but the the people, the humans that are in the first season, I knew without a doubt would absolutely give each other their own crowns over and over again, regardless of what they were that left them. Um and I and I and I love that. I and I love that we uh can all acknowledge, and I could own, I could feel you feeling like figuring this out as we were talking.

SPEAKER_02 21:37

Yeah, because again, we don't know each other.

Belief, Self-Love, And Worthiness

SPEAKER_03 21:39

We do not, correct. Um, and and just as strong as um your your faith and my faith is is hers. Absolutely, and there's a place for that and to be very respectful of that. Absolutely, and I love that because I don't know that you've always been met when you have voiced your opinion. I'm not sure you've always been met with the other side of the sandbox saying that they respected your decision as well. Am I wrong?

SPEAKER_01 22:08

Um tell me how I think people like to kind of judge you. Not judge in a sense, just they always bring up uh like religions and their beliefs, and they always kind of just talk about it. And you're like, why don't we just keep this between us? You know, it's like we always have to involve this higher being. Like why?

SPEAKER_03 22:28

But isn't it but what but like what strength is like it's kind of beautiful now to say, yeah, you are your higher being ability of you know, and I don't judge people and I I expect people to live their lives how they want to live it and do whatever, but at the same token, vice versa.

SPEAKER_01 22:43

Let me live mine, let me correct my thoughts and opinions, and don't try and I won't try and change yours, don't try and change mine.

SPEAKER_03 22:51

Don't I will say I've I've seen you go into very respectful conversations about it, though. Really, where I felt like you opened yourself up to trying to understand. Oh, yeah, as long as they were trying to understand your point of view too. Anybody who and I've seen you shut those conversations down.

SPEAKER_01 23:07

Anybody who has any opinions about anything, first off, if you're gonna have an opinion about something, you have to know about it. So you have to know both sides of the coin, both sides of the argument before you even get into discussions about it.

SPEAKER_03 23:18

And I think we all have our reasons, and and I intimately know your reason, and I respect it more than anything. Um, I will go ahead and I'll move us away from this topic just a little bit. Just a little bit, just a little bit. So the next question about nursing. Um, so I said earlier in the intro, I guess, whatever, um, as of this moment, only in this room one person has had their episode drop. Both of you, the other two. So Rose, yours is the one that's actually dropped. Crystal, yours drops tomorrow. Um, Marissa will be the week following. But I would like to, I'm gonna start with Marissa. I would like to know, even though yours hasn't dropped yet, so you haven't even had you haven't had the opportunity to hear the feedback to get that side of it. What if anything? And it's okay to say nothing. What if anything shifted in you after even being able to speak openly about your things, knowing that it was going to be aired publicly? How did that feel? What what what did you feel after that?

SPEAKER_00 24:23

I felt actually empowered. I leaned a little bit more into who I am. I leaned into more into that truth. Um, you don't you don't give up. You never give up, you just keep pushing through, and you're gonna find your reasons. Yeah, I don't know what my purpose is, I don't know um where I'm gonna end up. I don't know what that future is. It's not mine to know, but what I do know is that I'm making a difference and my resilience. Um it's powerful and it's something to be really proud of. And I'm leaning into that. I'm leaning into I'm a powerful person because I choose not to give in. I choose not to give up. I choose not to give in to the negativity, to the to the the bad thoughts, the unworthiness. I'm so sorry. No, you're fine.

SPEAKER_03 25:25

I really should take medication. And I don't even have an official diagnosis, but something ain't right. You know what I mean? Like something I'm so it's true. Earlier, you and I were talking as you were helping me filter out fake nails on the floor. And that's just that whole thing. I could go on for an hour about that, but you had mentioned um we were talking about when we did meet, and you were talking about in that time in your life, um, you were searching for acceptance. And that means many different things. Most people might uh assume or conclude that that meant like a romantic acceptance, like from a man. But even in that moment, like professionalism wise or professionally wise, um, in all aspects of your life, you were just looking for someone to say, you're so good enough.

SPEAKER_00 26:19

Enough.

SPEAKER_03 26:20

And and that enough word bothers me.

SPEAKER_00 26:22

I know it's bad.

SPEAKER_03 26:24

Because it goes back to bare minimum. Um, you were you just wanted to feel good enough as you were to be where you were, whether that's in your profession as a mother, as a significant other, to be chosen. Um and I think that, and of course, I have the I have the knowledge of what we spoke about, which is something that not everybody, well, when this comes out, they'll all know. But these two women here don't exactly know your story and and the the struggles you went through to get to where you are. Um but coming from a family where your father is a very successful physician, holds a um, holds a an executive role at a local organization, which will not be named. Um and then knowing what you wanted to do and in where where your brain could have probably taken you, fighting that from what felt right for you and your path is very significant. And I am excited for you for your show to come out because I think you're going to impact far more people than you have even any idea, than you probably could. And it goes back to what we argued about at the beginning of this segment, which at some point will probably be put on a little clip or something about how you identified yourself professionally. Um you are hospital administration, you are the reason things get done. Um your reactor your relational abilities and skills are valuable because they're not easily come by regardless of what letters or the alphabet are behind somebody's name. They don't necessarily have the ability you have.

SPEAKER_00 28:18

I appreciate that. I think it's underplayed a lot. Um, you know, to me, it's something that comes easy. I enjoy it. I love it. It's, you know, I growing up, I was from very, very young, I was introverted, believe it or not. I was introverted. I would not call to order a pizza. Really do it.

SPEAKER_03 28:39

I would order four.

SPEAKER_00 28:41

My sister would like to yell at me all the time because we were, you know, it was it was time to order pizza and I wouldn't do it. So um somehow something clicked, something changed. I don't know. Um, maybe I drank some seaweed juice or something. I don't know. Usually juice juice. And I became an extrovert. And um, then I was the kid that would never shut up. I love it. And then I talked too much.

SPEAKER_03 29:07

So is that what you were told?

SPEAKER_00 29:09

Oh, yeah, all the time. You talk too much, but there's that, there's that framework. Too much too much, too much. Too much.

SPEAKER_02 29:16

You're catching yourself.

SPEAKER_00 29:17

I actually got fired from a job because I talked to the patient. My very first hospital, it wasn't hospital, it was uh urgent care, pediatric urgent care. They wanted me out of there because I talked to the patients too much. Yeah, I talked to the patients too much. Too much.

SPEAKER_03 29:33

You were too much friendly. How dare you? Yeah, how dare you? So dare you. God forbid a girl just want to make someone feel loved, right? That's what the young kids say now these days.

SPEAKER_00 29:42

And here's the funny part. I was 18 years old, cross-trains for unit coordinator and patient care tech. 18, 18 years old. And I knew then that these people bringing their kids in after hours, late, you know, they're in crisis mode. They're in like what's going on. And even at that young age, I knew they needed connection. And so I connected. And yes, that meant talking a lot. I mean, we talked connection as medicinal as we talked about things other than the reasons why they were there, and they were laughing. And they, you know, so um, there's definitely been huge shifts in my entire existence, and I'm finally excited to lean in that I'm not too much of anything.

SPEAKER_03 30:32

Indeed, you are not. And I and I dare I say, um, except for myself, because I'm still working on that part. None of you are too much of anything. I I am still working on deciding if I'm too much of some things, but it's okay. Um, I do want to pause this because we have a whole nother episode to do. And I really was excited. Uh, it's come come of no surprise that I used Chat GPT to help me figure out like how episodes should run or whatever. And it gave me this great idea. It honestly get on the train or sit back. I don't care. Get left behind, but get left literally, get left behind. They said it they I refer to my robot. And I'm very nice, by the way, because I do you ask it please?

SPEAKER_00 31:20

Do you ask it please? Like, please do this very mannerly.

Choice, Resilience, And Daily Habits

SPEAKER_03 31:24

But I'm also but I also said it too. Like, when I'm like, what is wrong with you today? And he was like, Jennifer, I'm so sorry. I'm like, okay, we're fine. Oh my god. Anyway, I so I haven't yet asked him what his name is, but I do think it's a him. Anyway, we dating guard next week. Nope. No, I'm kidding. I'm kidding.

SPEAKER_01 31:41

It's like a it's obviously a joke. It's so funny. And she can say that because she knows because I did the same thing. I did the same thing.

SPEAKER_03 31:51

You can say what you want, but it's fine. I deserve that. I earned it. It's mine. We're gonna move on from that. Anyway, it did give me an idea of like a truth bomb section right before we ended. And we have just a little bit of time. So I'm gonna these, so this is the truth bomb. I wish I had a I had a button to like play a noise. Right, like that. I'm gonna get one for season two. Um, so we're we're going, cleanse your minds of what we've talked about. We're doing truth bomb segment. So I'm gonna ask a question and I'm gonna point to the person I want to answer first. And it is a simple answer. I don't need dissertations, I don't need life stories. I just want to answer and we're gonna move along and we're gonna do that. Okay, fun? Sounds fun, great, fantastic. You ready? Oh, no problem. One can't repair for it okay. Great. All right.

SPEAKER_01 32:39

One thing you will never apologize for again, Crystal. Nope, not ready. Nope, not ready. I'm not ready. Somebody else. What are you talking about? What does that mean? That's too complicated.

SPEAKER_03 32:52

One thing you'll never apologize for again. All right, Rose.

SPEAKER_02 32:57

I will not apologize for wanting to be at the table. I love that.

SPEAKER_03 33:02

Okay, so you've got that answer, okay? No, no, you passed your turn. Go ahead.

SPEAKER_00 33:07

Talking too much.

SPEAKER_03 33:09

I figured the word, I figured the phrase too much was gonna come out at least once.

SPEAKER_00 33:13

I'm making sure my rules, you're not having to.

SPEAKER_03 33:15

Well, no, according to Daniel, I do. Just kidding, just kidding. Okay, Crystal. One thing you'll never apologize for again.

SPEAKER_01 33:23

No, but that's what I'm saying. I don't know. I don't know.

SPEAKER_03 33:25

Okay, I'll tell you. Never apologize again for trying to make people better.

SPEAKER_01 33:32

I do I apologize for that? I don't think I've ever apologized for it. Um that's what you've been doing this entire segment.

SPEAKER_03 33:40

No, I'm moving on.

unknown 33:41

Next question.

SPEAKER_01 33:43

I'm not allowed on here.

SPEAKER_03 33:44

Like you are, you are, you're more welcome to normally. Honestly, she's so true for that because she doesn't apologize for shit. She's absolutely right. She wasn't ready. She should apologize for anything. How can she be ready? Exactly. Okay. One lie women were raised to believe, Rose. That were too much. Can't use it. Sorry.

SPEAKER_00 34:03

No, that they can't fulfill every single dream that they've ever dreamed.

SPEAKER_03 34:09

I love it. Wait, wait, read redo that?

SPEAKER_01 34:11

What was that? What was that question? You're horrible.

SPEAKER_03 34:14

One lie, women were raised to believe. So she said that we're too much, that we cannot fulfill every dream we've ever had in a woman.

SPEAKER_01 34:23

Um, just being less, I guess, seen as less in society.

SPEAKER_03 34:30

Absolutely. I love we can go back on what you said before that we didn't belong at the table, that we belong to be seen and not heard. Right. That we were there as a supportive role. Which I will never let you say in my presence again, just so you know. Okay, moving past that. One boundary that changed your life. This one is a little bit more difficult, Marissa. Start.

SPEAKER_00 34:53

The boundary that I have that changed my life is not, I get to choose who takes my energy.

unknown 35:00

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 35:01

That's fine. Do I give my energy to? It's up to me. That is my boundary. That has it saved my life.

SPEAKER_01 35:07

Setting boundaries. Oh, that's we are blessed.

SPEAKER_03 35:10

We're good. We're still good. We're still blessed. We are still blessed. We are still blessed. We are blessed. Um, and honestly, the table's too close to me. That's fine. It's my fault. My dog. Um, so uh a boundary that changed your life.

SPEAKER_01 35:24

Yeah, I like that.

SPEAKER_03 35:25

But you know, but I can also tell you another one because uh clearly truth bombs are a little difficult. Hopefully, we get better by by episode 10. Uh, bare minimum.

SPEAKER_01 35:34

Bare minimum. Oh my god, yeah, what am I doing? Yeah, there that's mine, yeah. Bare minimum that instead of when somebody does something for you, like in dating, we'll just go for that because it's so easy for me to reference that. In dating, if somebody does something for you that you think that you want to go off the chain, like relationships, just a man opening a door, it is what is supposed to be done. That is bare minimum. But for some reason, we keep slacking and having those expectations as women. Women are responsible, not men. It is women that sit there and they have less ex lowered their expectations of men so much in dating that when a man opens your car door, you're like, oh my god, he opened my car door. No, that's what is for why you should have been doing this for why to be chosen, it's bare minimum to be chosen, and you know, I have to elaborate on this.

SPEAKER_00 36:23

This is not just for your relationship, your intimate relationships with this goes with friends too. So friends to no longer bare minimum. I'm with you on that one.

SPEAKER_03 36:33

Bare minimum, bare minimum, yeah. All right, only because it's rapid fire, Rose. Your turn. What boundary changed your life?

SPEAKER_02 36:40

That no means no, it's a full sentence.

SPEAKER_01 36:44

No is a full sentence, yeah.

SPEAKER_02 36:46

No, no is a full sentence.

SPEAKER_03 36:48

I don't have to explain myself, and even in this particular answer, you do not. I think that that that statement alone carried every single thing that we needed to hear. I love that. Okay. We are still blessed. We are still blessed. Um, also, um, I am gonna go ahead, we're gonna pause here because we have a whole nother episode that is just dying to unfold. And the longer I take to do an official outro uh means that we're gonna break the chemistry we already have going here. And that ain't happening. So stay tuned. If you thought that episode one of the season finale was great, season two is gonna knock your socks off. So, for all of you out there, all of my light, all of my love, this is the call light.

SPEAKER_00 37:36

Yay!

SPEAKER_03 37:37

Wonderful.